Before you gasp and think, “She’s expecting AGAIN?”, no, there’s no “Ewanling” in the making. The topic has been lingering in my mind recently though.
A friend of mine whose baby was born just a few days apart from Ewan, is currently 3 months pregnant with her second child. It’s definitely nothing about peer pressure but it does make me wonder, how do they plan to juggle with a young baby and young toddler at the same time? I can’t imagine going through morning sickness while tending to Ewan’s needs. And the thought of me chasing after Ewan and screaming at the top of my lungs while holding a hungry, crying baby in my arms scares the daylight out of me. Without a helper, I don’t think it’s possible for me to care and give proper attention to two young kids without turning into an exhausted, angry monster. But then again, my mom, your mom and people’s moms did it. “Take it as it comes” was Jac’s advice. BUT I’m a control freak! 🙂
Hubby and I are also not receptive to sending any of our kids to a babysitter and only bring him/her home on weekends; we might as well just get a fish, chuck it in the aquarium and only look/talk to it when we are free, right? So if God’s willing and we are blessed with a second child, I would want to stay home for him/her too.
I would like to go back to work one day too, when my children are more independent and can express their needs and feelings. My only dilemma is, I don’t want to wait too long nor do I want a baby this soon. The perfect timing would be the Year of Dragon but then again, it’s a CRAZY year for Chinese. They will be racing to conceive and labour wards will be crowded. When it’s time for these babies to start Year 1, they will be competing to get into good schools and each class will be jam-packed. Ditto for when these Dragon babies graduate and go into the working world together. The competition will be just so much tougher, not that I doubt my kids’ capabilities. So yes, it’s an ideal timing for us but no, not a good year. The year after would be too far of a gap and by then, my employment worth will probably be pathetically low, unless I get REALLY lucky. Hubby is keen on another baby for sure. My negotiation for “let’s just stick to one and invest fully on him” failed. So something’s got to give. I’m just not sure what my heart says now.
Which all come to the big question, when is the right time to consider baby #2? What is an ideal age gap between the eldest and his/her next sibling?
For those who already have 2 kids and above, what’s your take? How about those with one toddler now? When do you think is a good time for a sibling to come along?
Thanks for sharing your thought!