Here’s to journal the sequence of events that followed the morning after Xan arrived:
The search for a paediatrician
The next morning on Saturday 17 November 2012, we woke up at 7.30am and got ready to bring Xan to see a paediatrician. We wanted to get a medical expert to check her vital signs and confirmed that all is good with her. We arrived at Tropicana Medical Centre at 8.20am, hoping to see Dr Anushree as I’ve heard that she’s gentle. Although we were there early, the nurse could not give us an appointment slot because Saturdays are strictly on appointment-basis only. Ditto for other paediatricians there, including E’s regular – Dr Ling.
We left TMC to see our family GP at a Mediviron nearby home. I figured that if it’s just for overall health check, any doctors can do that, right? I was wrong. The doctor turned us away as he “will only see babies above one month old”. My gut instincts told me that he was just being extra careful after finding out that Xan was born at home. Just in case things turn out otherwise if he sees her and says all’s good…not many doctors have the courage to take such “risks”. I have previously discussed about homebirth with this same doctor before but was advised otherwise. As always, their what-if-things-go-wrong perception, instead of what can go right, outweighs their faith in Nature’s design. I can’t blame him; doctors are trained that way.
There we went again, four of us sitting in the car (with E yapping away), while Hubby and I asked around for contacts of paediatricians that work on weekends. We realized that our options were limited and decided to head towards Damansara Specialist Hospital for Dr Musa. At the same time, I could get myself checked at Dr Siva’s. Killing two birds with one stone.
We were lucky that we only had to wait for an hour to see the ever popular Dr Musa (for whatever reason it’s beyond me as he’s not friendly, doesn’t take time to answer questions and the queue is always horrendous). When told that Xan was born yesterday at home, he looked at us in disbelief – as if we are some freaks from a faraway village. I casually said “Tak sempat” – that we couldn’t make it in time for the hospital. He didn’t buy our story as a minute later, he asked “Where do you stay?” He offered a blood test for G6PD and thyphoid upon our request. On the bright side, he was extremely gentle with Xan, especially when he extracted blood from her tiny veins. All he ordered for us was to get Xan’s cord to be clamped shorter. The damage including lab test? RM220+.
Next we consulted Dr Siva. The wait was less than 20 minutes. When we first walked in, he smiled and exclaimed “Superwoman la u!” to me. Ironic indeed as I just saw him around 24 hours ago with a pregnant belly and there I was again, with a baby in my arms. Hubby had also spoken to him the night before to ensure that all was done accordingly. Dr Siva congratulated us and proceeded to check me. The ultrasound scan showed that nothing’s left behind in my uterus, so all’s clear. Then he checked my cervix and confirmed that the tear was minimal and did not require any stitching. We paid RM180+ for the consultation and scan. Dr Siva also kindly issued a letter of confirmation to certify that I was his patient and had given birth at home. For JPN registration purposes.
JPN registration for homebirth
As for registering Xan in JPN records and getting her birth certificate as well as MyKid, it was a little bit of a merry-go-round. The standard documents required for homebirth registration are police report, doctor’s letter (optional), marriage certificate and identity cards of both parents and gynae’s appointment card. But when Hubby went to the nearest police station to make a report, he was told by the policeman on duty that it wasn’t necessary; that it was only applicable for deaths. Dr Siva’s nurse said the same thing as well. And so he went to JPN at Kota Damansara, only to be told that a police report is a must. Double work there but we finally got Xan’s birth certificate done.
In terms of total cost for this birth – inclusive of the pool, homebirth essentials and doctor’s consultation fees the day after – we spent approximately RM700.
All in all, things went smoothly. We had the entire Saturday and Sunday to babymoon, spending time with just the four of us (Odee was off for boarding), before the chaos of confinement this-and-that begun. Urghh…I don’t mind being pregnant but totally loathe confinement!