People often asked me “what do you do at home all day?” or “how do you pass time?”
Well, if you’re stay-at-home mom (SAHM), you’ll agree that time passes easily because there’s so much to do! More often than not, it is tougher than being in a full-time salaried job. Being a full-time mother challenges me a lot in physical and emotional endurance. It is a role that constantly evolves and requires on-going self-improvement and knowledge upgrade. Chehhhh…sounds serious, right? It is! We are on-call 24/7, come rain or shine, and there’s no OFF button where you can just take a day off and not care about a single thing at all. It’s only occasional that I get to have an hour or two of me-time when the husband decides to be extra sweet and take over fully.
Time flies off quickly for me in Dubai. I can’t exactly pinpoint what makes me so busy the whole day that by the time I get to sit down and take a breather, it’s usually 11pm already. SO, I decided to jot down my activities in a day.
This is very much my new routine as a full-time mom and wife here:
7.00am: Wake up, freshen up and change. Wake Ewan up for school. On days that he doesn’t have to attend nursery, we will sometimes sleep in (provided the kids allow me to, which is very, very rare!)
7.30am-8.15am: Prepare and have breakfast with E. One final check on E’s bag. Wake Xan up, breastfeed. Head out for E’s school. Because we only have one car at the moment, I will drive E to school if Hubby carpools with a colleague on that day. Otherwise, we will take a taxi.
8.40-10.20am: Reach home, put the soup to boil and prepare ingredients for lunch. Sometimes I’ll take the opportunity to cook something more exciting but it all depends on how cooperative Xan is. Give Xan a bath. Breastfeed. Check my emails, FB, Instagram, pay bills online etc.
10.20am: Put Xan down for a power nap. Put laundry to wash. Because Xan is fully on cloth diapers in the daytime, the laundry piles up easily and needs to be washed every two days. These days, I try to wash the clothes in small batches instead so that we can just hang-dry them instead of using the dryer machine. More environment-friendly and gentle on the clothes.
11.00am: Xan wakes up. Change diaper. Free play for her while I steal a quick exercise session (if I feel like it!). They are usually 10-15 sets of sun salutation followed by 30 times of sit-ups. Enough to make me pant.
11.45am: Breastfeed again before we head out to fetch E from school.
12.15pm: Back home. Bathe E while Xan watches from her walker. Prepare lunch.
1.00pm: Lunch. Wash dishes and clean up kitchen. Pick up mess on the floor. Tidy up dining area.
1.40pm: Free play for E and Xan. Put in second batch of laundry.
2.15pm: Nap time for the kids. Breastfeed Xan, read to E and wait for them to pass out. If I didn’t rest well the night before, I will nap together the kids.
3.00pm: Otherwise, I will sneak out of the room as soon as they start snoozing to catch up with hanging out laundry to dry, fold clothes, tidy up the playroom and surroundings of apartment, baking, or just some quiet time for myself. Xan’s mommy’s radar is extremely sensitive and will sense my absence easily – hence whenever I’m not sleeping next to her, she will wake up crying for me and I’ll have to run up and down the room in between these chores to put her back to sleep.
5.00pm: Kids wake up from nap. Light snack time. Bring them to the building’s recreational area or nearby supermarket for a run/fresh air.
6.15pm: Prepare dinner. The kids usually watch TV, hang out in the kitchen or play around the apartment while I cook.
6.45pm: Hubby comes home from work. What a relief!
7.15pm-8.15pm: Dinner, wash dishes, clean the kitchen, tidy up dining area. Hubby will cut fruits.
8.15pm-9.45pm: Clean up the kids and change them into pajamas. Breastfeed. Shower time for me. Family bonding time.
9.45pm-10.30pm: Get the kids ready for bed with sleep routine. Lights out.
10.30pm: Once the kids are asleep, I’m back in the kitchen planning meals for the next day, looking for recipe ideas and taking out ingredients that need to be defrosted. Prepare E’s and the husband’s lunchbox for next day. Fold clothes, put things back into order, catch up with reading. If I’m in the mood to blog, I’ll post an entry, do online banking/window shopping, reply to emails & messages. Xan would usually wake up at least twice to look for me while I’m chilling out.
12.30am: Sleep. Xan is still breastfeeding throughout the night, so a well-rested, uninterrupted night of rest happens once in a blue moon too. During her teething period, getting an hour or two of sleep is quite expected.
On days that E doesn’t attend nursery, we will take everything easy. When we are both up for it, we will do some simple homeschooling activities or just free & easy play all day long while I do my chores. Sometimes we just do nothing and rot together – that’s MOST fun! *hehe*
On days when I feel like I’m going a bit cuckoo (usually evident from a decrease in tolerance level and an increase in voice) and needed a break from routine, I’ll meet my friends for morning coffee sessions or a nice breakfast followed by a stroll in the mall. Or I’ll learn baking from Kim! Once in a while, we mothers dress up and go for ladies’ night out.
So. That’s basically my life as a SAHM here. Not bad eh? 🙂